Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Last week I read about a youth leader who had a student who thought she might be a lesbian. I read volumes of material everyday and I can't recall the last time I was led to write to anyone about anything. Live and let live. If I don't like something, I delete it. I don't like to argue over strongly held opinions.

I have enough work on my plate as it is and I don't need to involve myself in someone else's article, blog or story. They are not going to convince me and I'm not going to convince them. But I HAD comment about this youth pastor. Not only do I believe she was doing her student a disservice, I believe she was doing the Church a disservice. I am not publishing her original article because it is much too long and I don't want to identify her or her church. My response to her will give you a good idea of what she had to say.

I am publishing my response now because in the future what I've written will be a "hate crime" and I want people to know where I stand.

What do you say to a student who has "feelings" of homosexuality?

Did I miss something in your article? I didn't see the leader telling the child homosexuality was wrong in God's eyes. Nor did she say it was a sin. Isn't it our responsibility to be honest with our students? Honesty is NOT CONDEMNING! We should be listening and guiding our students to the Truth. Homosexuality is a lifestyle choice that is abhorrent to God. That is not judging an individual who "thinks" he/she may be gay. It is simply quoting Scripture and teaching the Truth. (Genesis 19 and others).

We know God would never "make" a person a homosexual and then say such a lifestyle is a sin? And we know homosexuality is a sin because God says it is. But we also know it by simple common sense.

Consider this:

If the whole world were to live a homosexual lifestyle, how long would humanity survive? Obviously, it wouldn't. One generation and out. That simple little illustration shows the homosexual lifestyle is destructive to the survival of mankind. Even before we had a cry in our heart to fill the hole in our soul with Jesus Christ, we had a cry for survival.

When my second grandson was born, we watched him struggle to survive in the prenatal care section of the hospital. He struggled to breathe; he fought for everything he was worth to survive. No one had to tell him to breathe. It came natural. The will to survive was natural and normal. I pray one day he will want to fill his life with the Spirit of Jesus Christ, but he had to survive before that could happen.

It is normal and natural for humans to fight to survive. When a lifestyle is destructive to the survival of mankind, God hates it. He doesn't hate the individual; He hates the lifestyle because He loves His creation – us. He loves us so much that He sent His only Son to die for us.

Over the years, I've had a few students tell me, "I have always had these feelings since I was a little child." I have been able to share that it is normal to have feelings, all kinds of feelings. When we have feelings about jumping off a cliff when we look over the edge, we are told to “fight those feelings.” When we have feelings to overeat, we are told to fight those feelings. Some of us are prone to other destructive behaviors such as alcoholism, drug addiction and anger and we are told to “fight those feelings” as well. Why shouldn’t we then fight the destructive feelings of homosexuality?

In each instance, when I have been able to lovingly share the Truth of God's Word with a student who was questioning his sexual feelings, he was relieved and grateful. He didn't understand the Truth of God's Word and he didn't understand his feelings.

In EACH case, the student has thanked me for listening and thanked me for helping him apply the Truth of Scripture to his life. Over the years I have watched these former students grow in their walk with Christ and live happy, normal and productive lives.

Have you ever thought that maybe Satan is whispering his lie in your students’ mind? Could various forms of entertainment and other teaching be reinforcing these lies?

Christians should honestly listen and NOT condemn others, but it would be a crime if we didn't guide our students into a deeper understanding of biblical teaching on this issue.

To share anything less than the Truth of God’s Word is to do your students a disservice.

I know these comments are not popular in today's society and I know I will receive a great deal of criticism, but I cannot sit by and not speak the Truth in love.

5 comments:

  1. Al, God bless you for being willing to challenge us all to filter our "feelings" and our "thinking" through the TRUTH of God as expressed in His word. There is no better source for every need we have!

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  2. Bravo Al!

    You said it very clearly, yet lovingly. It's amazing how Satan paints us as the intolerant evil one. It would be evil to say nothing. You're right about the youth leader, they need to think it through.

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  3. Al,
    This is the best response I've ever heard or read on this topic! Thank you for your clear distinction between giving in to feelings and (using your head) following God's word.
    Many people get themselves into unhealthy situations because they
    are selfish and have no moral guidance.
    I hope the Youth Leader takes to heart what you wrote and realizes her huge influence on the children she is in charge of.

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  4. When you look over the end of a bridge, you don't ever "fight" to not jump, no one does that unless they're suicidal. Do people ponder the idea? Of course, that's the result of simple curiosity. Alcoholism, over-eating, those are coping mechanisms that people turn to when God is not in their lives.

    But when an INNOCENT child feels attracted to another person of the same sex, you can't group that same anomoly with the likes of these. I contend you are on to something here, but you're not hitting the mark. This is why you hear so much debate on whether homo-sexuality is a born or aquired trait.

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  5. When you look over the end of a bridge, you don't ever "fight" to not jump, no one does that unless they're suicidal. Do people ponder the idea? Of course, that's the result of simple curiosity. Alcoholism, over-eating, those are coping mechanisms that people turn to when God is not in their lives.

    But when an INNOCENT child feels attracted to another person of the same sex, you can't group that same anomoly with the likes of these. I contend you are on to something here, but you're not hitting the mark. This is why you hear so much debate on whether homo-sexuality is a born or aquired trait.

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