Monday, May 10, 2010

Homosexuality: What's the Big Deal?

You may have heard about contemporary Christian music artist, Jennifer Knapp, “coming out” about her lesbian lifestyle. Many in the Christian community believe homosexuality is a sin, but don’t understand why that lifestyle is so offensive to God. It’s a sin because God says so! (Lev 18:22 and 20:13.) So please let me reflect on this issue.

Jennifer Knapp has been one of my family’s favorite artists for many years. She has won Dove Awards and was nominated for a Grammy. She has sold over a million albums. She has a wonderful talent to be able to formulate wonderful songs about the love and grace of God. She is an excellent artist.

When she made her life choices public, I watched as she explained to Larry King that God didn’t judge her because she “fell in love with another woman.” I read various articles where she said her Christian fans supported her decision and many Christian women were coming to her concerts and winking at her to show their approval.

Does that mean God doesn’t care about Jennifer’s lifestyle? What’s the big deal about being gay? Many say, as Jennifer claims, “If God didn’t want me gay, He wouldn’t have made me gay.” Which begs the question, how do you know God made you gay?

Many in the homosexual community respond, “I’ve had these urges since I was a child.” Really? I’ve had urges to overeat and cut myself since I was a child, but I have found it is wise to fight destructive urges because ultimately they will destroy me.  

How can anyone say homosexuality is destructive?

God didn’t make Jennifer gay. It is her choice, a wrong choice, but it is still her choice to have a sexual relationship with another woman. How do I know?

Let’s examine the basics.

God loves us and wants His best for us and Satan hates us and wants to destroy us. Can we agree on this basic principle?

Next, consider the following example. If everyone in the world lived a homosexual lifestyle how long would society last? Obviously, the answer is only until the last person presently alive dies.

I don’t have to point out the obvious, but for the sake of argument allow me to do it anyway.  Ultimately living a homosexual lifestyle will lead to the destruction of society. 

We know Satan hates God and hates mankind. His goal is to destroy the things God loves. God loves us more than anything else He created. If Satan can get God’s creation to live in a way that is destructive, imagine how that would hurt God and bring happiness to Satan.

There are many destructive things mankind does to destroy life. Most of the lifestyles such us drug usage, smoking, violence, suicide, etc. are recognized as destructive and are discouraged. But living a homosexual lifestyle is encouraged as “normal.” Can anything be normal that is ultimately destructive?

If we live our life in such a way that is destructive to the survival of mankind, it doesn’t make God mad but it hurts Him because it is destroying the things He loves most – mankind.

God isn’t looking around to see who is “having fun” and, as a cosmic killjoy, condemning us because we are “doing what comes natural.” No, He sees mankind behaving in a manner that will ultimately destroy civilization if carried out completely, and He wants society to survive so we can enjoy Him.  

17 comments:

  1. whenever someone says they "fell in love" i do feel sorry for them. love is so much more than an accident. it's something we do each day on purpose, the way God does for us. loving is all about giving everything we can into a relationship with someone, whether they are reciprocating or not. Jesus is love. every other way of loving, is just a way of bartering good feelings, until someone is short and it all falls apart.

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  2. To each ht their own. I do like Al's approach of not going ballistic like the God Hates Fags group. So whether you agree or not agree with Jennifer Knapp, the VERY wrong thing to do is to create hostility in the name of God.

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  3. First off, if one believes in Christ, then one has to believe in God's Word. The two are inseparable. The Bible states, unequivocally and inarguably, that "a man shall not lie down with a man as with a woman" (likewise, logically, for a woman with a woman), and we are to "take up our cross" to follow Jesus, which means setting aside all of our earthly desires in favor of His will. By this extension, one cannot be a practicing homosexual and a Christian at the same time. You can't defy God's Word while proclaiming His son as Savior. Period. It's a shame that, like so many other people, Ms. Knapp has confused love with sex. Believe it or not, it's entirely possible to love someone and not have sex with them, ever. If you do so, you're not acting in God's will for your life. Period.

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  4. I honestly believe that Jennifer knows in her heart that she is breaking one of god's laws. Jennifer is conceding to desires of her flesh and she will have her own accounting to god. Prays out to Jennifer that she will come home soon.

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  5. I'm sorry, but the eventual demise of human society due to a lack of reproduction related to everyone someday being homosexual is a truely benign argument as God's reason why being 'gay' isn't good. Homosexual sex consists of physical acts that are not only disgusting but dishonor and degrade the human mind and body that were fearfully and wondrously made. Such acts are an affront to our creator, just as a daily choice to live outside of the laws and lifestyle that God established in an attempt to keep us healthy and happy. Homosex is simply one of a plethora of unfortunate choices people make that disregards God's specific instructions for how we should live and dishonors the bodies of the people He created.

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  6. How do you know for sure God did NOT make Jennifer gay? How are you so sure that homosexuality is a strategy from Satan to destroy mankind? Who are YOU to think and believe you know the answers?

    Isn't God bigger, greater than all that? Is there anyone among us who can fathom the depth of His love?

    Leave it to Him. Leave it to the person who is seeking a relationship with Him. Let us not judge others ...

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    1. Thank you for not being ignorant like most of these people.

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  7. We know for certain God didn't make Jennifer gay, for two reasons.
    1) The end result of a homosexual lifestyle will lead to the destruction of society. God love us and doesn't want us to live a destructive life.
    2) God will never "make" someone a homosexual and then command them not to live a homosexual life. That would undermine the authority of God. AND it would be a sick sense of humor on God's part. That would confuse people and God is not the author of confusion.
    Remember, Satan hates us and wants us to destroy God's most precious creation. Mankind.

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  8. "Before the foundation of the earth" God/Jesus had a plan to save us. He knew there would be murdering, raping, child trafficking, wife beating psychopaths...but He made a CHOICE to love us ultimately...proving love is a CHOICE in the most important way. So I know that "falling in love" is only an excuse for poor choices whether it be adulterous or homosexual.

    The conflict I have a hard time with is the gray zone of tolerance...intolerance has lead to the pharisees, crusades, 9/11, modern day rightwing hate-mongering. But I know I must stand strong for what is Godly and moral and right. Jesus freely mixed with sinners--they were not on the receiving end of His intolerance---He was intolerant of those who directly mislead people regarding the character of His Father--the temple money changers. So, Mr. Menconi, I am very conflicted about how to deal with the issue of Jennifer Knapp. Your article makes it so seemingly easy and clear...but the hard part is judging how hard to push back against the inevitable tide of evil. Personnally we should push with all we can in ourselves but, towards others...I not sure how to define "loving intolerance of evil".

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  9. "Before the foundation of the earth" God/Jesus had a plan to save us. He knew there would be murdering, raping, child trafficking, wife beating psychopaths...but He made a CHOICE to love us ultimately...proving love is a CHOICE in the most important way. So I know that "falling in love" is only an excuse for poor choices whether it be adulterous or homosexual.

    The conflict I have a hard time with is the gray zone of tolerance...intolerance has lead to the pharisees, crusades, 9/11, modern day rightwing hate-mongering. But I know I must stand strong for what is Godly and moral and right. Jesus freely mixed with sinners--they were not on the receiving end of His intolerance---He was intolerant of those who directly mislead people regarding the character of His Father--the temple money changers. So, Mr. Menconi, I am very conflicted about how to deal with the issue of Jennifer Knapp. Your article makes it so seemingly easy and clear...but the hard part is judging how hard to push back against the enevitable tide of evil. Personnally we should push with all we can in ourselves but, towards others...I not sure how to define "loving intolerance of evil".

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  10. "Let us not judge others"

    I challenge anyone who uses this phrase to use it in the Biblical context (Matthew 7:1-5) of "judge not lest ye be judged." When read in context, one finds that Jesus was warning against hypocrisy; in other words, we shouldn't judge others when we ourselves are committing the same sin as what we are judging them for.

    Keep in mind that judging those who aren't Christians is a different matter ("What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church?" - 1 Corinthians 5:12a). That area is God's place alone to judge.

    But as for those who proclaim to be Christian... we not only can judge, but often SHOULD judge them. Why? For church purity (1 Cor. 5:6), to bring repentance and restoration (1 Cor. 5:5, 2 Cor. 2:6-11), and unity and effectiveness of the church (Acts 5:14).

    Church discipline is a prominent (and yet conveniently overlooked) teaching in the New Testament: Mt. 18:14-20, Lk. 17:1-5, 1 Cor. 5:1-13, 2 Cor. 2:5-7, Ga. 6:1-2, 2 Thess. 3:11-15, 1 Tim. 1:20, 1 Tim. 5:19-22, Titus 3:10-11.

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  11. I THINK GOD LOVES ALL OF US!! BUT FOR SURE HE HATES SIN.... WE ARE SINNERS BUT GOD GIVES US THE OPPORTUNITY TO REPENT EVRERYDAY. REPENT MEANS WE STOP DOING THE WRONG THING... WE ALL KNOW THIS IS PROBABLY THE SICKES THING GOING ON OUT THERE AND GOD DIDNT MAKE THEM GAY. THE DEVIL PUTS IT OUT THERE AND PEOPLE ARE WEAK ENOUGH TO FALL FOR IT.. GOD LOVES US BUT HATES SIN...

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  12. Al,

    What I am about to write is very personal. I thought I had always had my arms around this issue and was quite confident that I was right. Almost everything you wrote was pretty much the totality of my thought. This all changed when my 15 year old son came out. All the feelings and emotions that surfaced in me came as a surprise. I began to question everything I ever believed to be true. I looked and searched and could not find ANY help for the conservative Christian parent trying to understand what was happening and know what to do. At the time, I remember that it did not matter what I believed. For the first time in his life my son felt accepted. .... This started as just a reply and became too long to post so please read the rest at http://bplaw-blog.blogspot.com/2010/05/gay-son-of-conservative-christian.html

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  13. I trust my human experience. That experience involves close, close friends who grew up like I did in conservative evangelical Christian homes and prayed until their knees bled that God would make them attracted to the opposite sex, to no avail. Now they're some of the happiest people I know, living productive lives with their monogamous partners, harming no one, and providing me with invaluable friendships. That is a fact. What is not a fact is that homosexuality is wrong. That is a belief.

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  14. To Mitch: If homosexuality wasn't wrong, God wouldn't have said it was wrong. He clearly said not to lay with someone of the same sex. Our loved ones do wrong things sometimes, and just becuase they are nice people, and we love them, doesn't mean we have to accept the wrong that they do. We shouldn't look down upon them, because we too are sinners. Homosexuality does harm society. It is an end to the creation of man. Homosexuality is a choice, just like love is a choice. I know love is a choice because Jesus Christ showed us that love is a choice when he died on that cross, when he wept over the death of Lazarus, and through all of the healing acts that he continues to do. I know God didn't make people gay. Like Al said, it would contradict the Word of God. That would cause confusion, and the Lord is NOT the author of confusion, Satan is. He is the father of lies. Everyone has what I call a "sin of choice." Its kind of like a drug of choice. Not everyone is gulity of the same sins.Some people lie, some steal, some cheat, some dishonor their parents, some commit adultery, and some have homosexual sex. Love the sinner, hate the sin. All sin is the same in the eyes of God.

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  15. I know this post is old and so are the comments, but if I found it then I'm sure this comment will be seen.

    I want to say you all are ignorant people who make me SICK. You know nothing of what gay people go through or any other member of the LGBT community. I don't ask you to accept gay-sex, but please try to be wiser on your approach.
    1- stop saying "lifestyle". Gay=attraction. A gay man can ignore his attractions, marry a woman, have kids and be a strong christian and yet he is still gay. "lifestyle" paints a picture of the stereotype of the promiscuous gay man. Its offensive and no one will want to listen to you after you say it.
    2: could you please stop talking about how it disgusts you. Some poor confused gay or lesbian will find this and feel even more unwanted and unloved. Too many gay youths end their lives because of A)the church making them feel this way, B)other youths at hear their parents talk about how homosexuality is disgusting and how they are a threat and then they bully these gay youth to death.
    3: try to look deeper into scripture. We were also not suppose to eat pork according to Lev. but we do anyway. And that list of laws also says that eagles are an abomination. According to the New Testament, we are free from that law. The other scriptures supposedly against gays are misunderstood too.
    In Sodom, they weren't gay men wanting to sleep with the angels. They were hateful men wanting to gang rape strangers in their town.
    In the Romans, Paul is speaking about the pagan rituals and oragies to pagan gods. Someone please explain how it compares to a young Christian who was 100% sold to Christ but that hits puperty and starts liking the same sex. In this passage it says that God gave them over to there shameful sins because they turned from him. That young man or woman didn't stray and yet now they have to face the pain of being out casted for thing they didn't choose.
    4: Stop saying they chose this. No Christian would choose this. There are Christians that start to feel the same things you all do for the opposite sex, for your spouses, but they feel it for the same sex. A lotof them hate themselves and wonder what they did wrong to deserve this. But they did NOTHING and people like you all make them feel like they must of done something because no matter how much they gry to ignore the feelings or pray God will take them away and give them "normal" feelings, they still have them. If you are going to be against it then pray for better was to help them. Because the churches normal approach pushes them away and sending them to ex-gay camps only causes them to have psychological damage for fighting who they are.
    Gay people are God's children and I know gay Christians that represent my God way better than you all could. Stop isolating people and realize that that is what you are doing. You're only causing pain and pushing hurting people away from God. I beg you to pray deeper about this issue. Be kind and loving and use better language. I know you mean well, but you are killing people like this.

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